We all have relationships in our life that just aren’t going to change. Your family is your family. Business partnerships aren’t easy to change. Maybe you have a coworker that you live without, but they’re not going anywhere either. While you can change your spouse, what I’ve found in many people who have made that choice is that:
- Their next marriage has all the same problems, because they bring their problems with them, also known as, “wherever you go, there you are”
- They’re never free of their spouse anyway, especially if they have children in common
A better approach is to start to focus on what’s right about this person. Every relationship breakdown I’ve ever seen has involved a huge component of focusing on the person’s negatives. So draw up a list of the positives, start to talk about them, focus on them, and see if things start moving in a better direction.
