125 good questions to ask to get to know someone

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Asking questions while you’re trying to get to know someone better is an important thing to do. Knowing which questions to ask is even more important, as this can help turn your casual conversations into something deeper. Whether you’re looking for some conversation starters with someone completely new or looking to expand on your current relationships, here are 125 questions to ask.

Questions to get to know a stranger?

  1. What do you do for a living?
  2. What do you do for fun?
  3. Where did you grow up?
  4. Where did you go to school?
  5. What is your favourite book?
  6. What is your favourite TV show?
  7. What is your go-to movie?
  8. What’s your latest obsession?
  9. Do you play any sports?
  10. Do you have any pets?
  11. Do you have any siblings?

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Questions to start a conversation?

  1. What’s your astrology sign?
  2. What’s your favourite song at the moment?
  3. What was your high school superlative?
  4. Do you have any nicknames?
  5. What is your favourite place in the world?
  6. What is your favourite emoji?
  7. What song would you sing at karaoke?
  8. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?
  9. If you were a superhero, what superpower would you want to have?
  10. What’s your favourite food?
  11. What’s your favourite scent?
  12. What’s your favourite animal?
  13. What’s your favourite or most used unnecessary purchase?
  14. What’s the worst purchase you’ve ever made?
  15. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
  16. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
  17. What’s your dream vacation destination?
  18. What’s on your bucket list?
  19. What are your pet peeves?
  20. What would you do if you won the lottery?
  21. If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be?
  22. What’s a non-essential item that you could not live without?
  23. What’s your Enneagram type?
  24. What’s your Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality?
  25. Are you an outdoorsy person?
  26. What’s your idea of a perfect day?
  27. How do you usually spend your mornings?
  28. How do you usually spend your evenings?
  29. How do you usually spend your weekends?
  30. What’s your favourite meal of the day?
  31. What’s your favourite time of day?
  32. What’s your favourite store?
  33. What’s your usual coffee shop order?
  34. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  35. What’s your favourite way to de-stress?
  36. Who is your favourite artist?
  37. If you could see anyone in concert, dead or alive, who would it be?
  38. What type of music do you listen to?
  39. What’s your biggest hot take?
  40. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
  41. What’s your best travel story?
  42. If you were granted three wishes, what would you wish for?

What are some deep questions to ask?

  1. What do you most value in life?
  2. How would you define success?
  3. What inspires you?
  4. What would you change about yourself if you could?
  5. Who is your biggest inspiration in life?
  6. What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life?
  7. How do you feel about your relationships?
  8. What is your relationship with your family/parent/siblings like?
  9. What motivates you to work hard?
  10. How would your friends describe you?
  11. How would you describe your best friend(s)?
  12. Who is one person you can talk to about anything?
  13. What is one place that you go to that brings you the most comfort?
  14. Do you believe in second chances?
  15. Where would you like to be (or where do you see yourself) in five years?
  16. What is your best personality trait?
  17. What is your worst personality trait?
  18. What’s something you admire most about people?
  19. What is your deepest fear?
  20. Do you have any regrets in life?
  21. Do you believe in an afterlife?
  22. When’s the last time you cried?
  23. What’s your guilty pleasure?
  24. Are you happy?
  25. Do you value experiences more or physical items?
  26. Are you someone who sees the glass half full or half-empty?
  27. What are important societal values in your opinion?
  28. Are you a religious and/or spiritual person?
  29. If there was a book about your entire life, start to finish, would you read it?
  30. What is the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you?
  31. Are platonic or romantic relationships more important to you?
  32. What is/was your longest friendship?
  33. What makes a strong friendship?
  34. Have you ever been in love?
  35. What was your last relationship like? Why did it end?
  36. What did your last or current relationship teach you?
  37. What are your relationship dealbreakers or red flags that you look for?
  38. Would you want to live in a different time period?
  39. Would you want to travel to space?
  40. Do you believe in aliens?
  41. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done, and would you do it again?
  42. What is your proudest accomplishment?
  43. What are your simple pleasures in life?
  44. What’s the most thoughtful thing someone has ever done for you?
  45. When was the last time you laughed really hard?
  46. Do you believe in fate?
  47. Are you where you thought you would be in life right now?
  48. What is the best gift you’ve ever been given?
  49. What is the best gift you’ve ever given?
  50. Would you want to live forever?
  51. Have you ever had a near-death experience?
  52. Do you feel your age?
  53. Are there any quotes or philosophies you live by?
  54. What’s your favourite childhood memory?
  55. What’s something you wish you knew when you were younger?
  56. What is a struggle that you’ve had to overcome or are working to overcome?
  57. What are you most thankful for?
  58. What are you most passionate about?
  59. Where do you go when you want to be alone?
  60. What do you do when you are having a bad day to make yourself feel better?

What are some flirty questions to ask?

  1. Do you believe in soul mates?
  2. What’s your go-to date spot?
  3. Do you believe in love at first sight?
  4. What’s your best pick up line?
  5. What’s the first thing you notice about someone?
  6. What qualities do you look for in a partner?
  7. Do you have a usual type?
  8. What is your ideal date?
  9. Are you a heartbreaker?
  10. What was your first impression of me?
  11. When was the last time you experienced butterflies?
  12. What are your plans this weekend?

If you’re looking for even more questions, be sure to check out 85 Questions to Break the Ice at Your Next Work Meeting!

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