We’re all tempted to spare people’s feelings by not telling them the hard truth. Besides the grief of actually having these conversations, truth can be de-motivating, and very awkward. And so we’re tempted to invent a spin to soften the truth. Here’s the problem with spin:
- The truth will come out in the end. The person will eventually find out that they have been placed in a cubicle far from everyone else because actually fruitarians do produce body odour, not because it will be handier for them to be close to the photocopier.
- Everyone involved in your ‘spin’ decision will outwardly agree, but silently wonder ‘what does she really mean when she tells me things?’